Design Lesson: your favourite proposal is almost always not the one that will be chosen by the client. Try not to stick to ideas and learn to know when it’s time to let go.
This was the field where I had the least experience, so I tried to learn as much as possible along the way. Project management of my wedding involved various activities, like:
- Keeping track of expenses and making sure to stay within the budget;
- Keeping track of deadlines, such as to attend the pre-marriage course at the church, to submit documents to the city office, etc.;
- Giving instructions and making sure that all the people involved had the information they needed: the photographer, the band for the banquet (including booking hotel rooms and organizing their travels), the florist, Francesca and Giulia, the restaurant owner, the priest and our families;
- Planning the details of our trip to Japan.
All of this while trying to save some free time for hobbies, friends and families (and sleep).
We didn’t use any digital project management tool except for an old-fashioned paper agenda, so it could always be available for both of us and we could bring it along for quick note-taking during our site visits. We did use a Pinterest board to easily collect and share inspirations for things like the decorations, graphic design, wedding rings, though.
Design Lesson: Anything that can go wrong will go wrong (yes, that’s Murphy’s Law). Try to be prepared and have a fallback plan, and anticipate any possible hitch that may happen along the way.
Luckily for us, we were diligent enough to prevent any major accident that could happen and our special day went by smooth as silk. Ilaria and me were very satisfied with how the whole experience turned out, and our guests were very happy, too.
Looking back, the fact that we spent a year to prepare for just a single day may seem crazy, but it actually taught me a lot about patience, attention to details and caring about other people’s needs. Skills that will certainly come in handy both in my career as a designer and in my relationship as a husband.